Visiting mom's psychiatrist (don't get me wrong, mom's is only having depression after having cancer) on her behalf turns out to be hilarious.
As mom thinks that she don't need to see her psychiatrist anymore, I have to get her medication for her as she still needs to continue taking it.
Discussing mom's conditions was really positive as she has showed great improvement this year in terms of emotion.
This Chinese New Year, she enjoys visiting relative and going out for dinner with us which is good compared from the first year she was diagnose with cancer.
But of course everything is not as fine as it sounds. Mom's bowel tolerance is getting to a stage that she has to be on adult diapers.
Personally, I don't know how uncomfortable it is wearing one (god bless me, I really hope that I don't need it in later life), but mom's dread wearing the diapers.
On the positive note, mom's don't give a hood about her bowel problem which now comes the hilarious part (sorry mom, I don't mean to talk about you behind your back).
She has begun to tell lies just to avoid wearing the diapers and when she's caught, she'll just give you the innocent looks.
After each toilet visit, she'll pretend to walk away without washing her hands but when caught, she'll obliged by just dipping her thumb and pointer in the water.
But if told by the maid that she should wash her hand or take her bath after she has soiled herself, she will give the maid her famous @#%&* words....thank god she does not understand a word at all because she's an Indonesian :>
It is not that I approved such manners coming from mom, it seems that the maid is her way of getting even with everybody. But of course, she will be at her very best if left alone with the maid because that is her only companion. She will be calling out affectionately for KaKaK if she needs anything. Kakak likes to tease mom and treated her like her own child. And we are so very thankful to kakak as she is very understanding and accommodating.
My brother and his wife are also doing a very good job up keeping mom. I know it is not easy for them. Mom can be stubborn and refuse to be bathed most of the time if she soiled herself. When my brother got exasperated with her, she will give him a big grin which can really melt anybodies heart.
She can be a cute little darling at times.
The good doctor asked me why mom started to tell lies. Well, I presumed that she did it to cover herself and this reminds me of my daughter when she was 3 years old.
Mom has becomes my daughter and I have becomes her mother.
Now that the role has been revised, I am doing my up most best to be a good mom to my mom as what she has been for all of us.
But mom, I really missed being your daughter. I miss your nagging, your motherly affection, your fuss over me when I am not feeling well.
I know you are tired to carry on and now that the ball has been passed on to us, I will make sure that I will be a good mother to you and my daughter.
To all the mother in this world, no love is greater than your loves.
